Fwd: helpful tips in breaking bad habits

Fight Your Inner Chicken

Beth Weissenberger

We all have excuses for why we have not yet achieved our goals... and why it is not worth making the changes required to pursue our goals now. "It's too hard"... "too frightening"... or "just not the right time."
We take the safer, easier way out whether that means keeping our current job rather than trying something different that we would rather do... keeping quiet rather than standing up for ourselves... or continuing to indulge in bad habits rather than disciplining ourselves to change behaviors, such as overeating or not exercising.
According to principles taught by the executive-coaching Handel Group, these excuses come from our "inner chicken," that voice in our head that keeps us from taking a challenging path. We accept our inner chicken's excuses as valid, even when they are clearly flawed, because believing that the easy course is the proper course is less painful than admitting that we are deeply and perhaps irrationally afraid of the alternative.
To overcome your inner chicken...

Reflect on what you would like your life to be like. What are your goals in your professional life... family life... social life... and financial life?

Thinking about your goals lures your inner chicken from its pen to offer up excuses. Write down your chicken's excuses. Become familiar with them. This familiarity will make it easier to see through them later.
Example: When a middle manager who attended one of our seminars thought about his professional goals, his inner chicken warned him that his family life was too busy for him to devote more time to his career... and the economy was too iffy to take professional chances. When his boss asked if he would like to lead an important presentation, the manager's first thoughts were that he was too busy and that failing at this assignment could cost him his job at a time when new jobs were scarce. But because he learned that it was his inner chicken talking, he identified his excuses as fear responses. He figured out how he could schedule his time so that he could make the project a priority without neglecting his family. He also reminded himself that, in a tough job market, not taking a chance could be as risky as taking one.

Ask an expert or friend to evaluate your inner chicken's excuses. Obtaining an outside perspective often is the best way to separate valid excuses from those rooted in fear.

If an excuse is medical in nature, ask your doctor whether it is valid... if it is professional, ask a career coach, business consultant or mentor... if it is about a relationship, speak with a marriage counselor or pastoral counselor. If this expert agrees that your excuse is valid, that does not free you from pursuing the goal -- it simply means that you should pursue it via a different route.
Example: Your goal is to lose 50 pounds, but your inner chicken warns you that jogging may damage your knees. If a doctor agrees, give up jogging -- but replace it with biking or swimming.
If you lack the time or money to consult an expert, ask a friend or family member to evaluate the excuse -- but choose this evaluator carefully. Family and friends tend to let us get away with our excuses because they want to tell us what we want to hear... or because their own inner chickens make similar excuses. Your evaluator must be both savvy enough to see through flawed excuses and plainspoken enough to tell you difficult truths.
If you find an effective evaluator, ask this person to serve this role for you on an ongoing basis. Send him/her a weekly e-mail summarizing your goals, the steps you have taken to pursue them and your excuses for not doing more. Request an honest critique.

When your inner chicken starts clucking, remind yourself of the high costs of remaining in your box. We all prefer the safety of our comfort zones, and the chicken helps us stay there. But we pay a huge price for this safety.

A life without risk is a life without excitement and adventure... without feelings of accomplishment... and without any hope of fulfilling our dreams. Reflect upon these costs whenever you're tempted to choose the comfortable path. Our greatest happiness usually is found on the other side of fear.
Also, consider that facing fears is good practice. Like it or not, events outside of our control force us out of our comfort zone eventually. We'll be better able to cope with these situations if we previously have taken ourselves out of this comfort zone.
Example: Those who have remained in one job their whole career for fear of change are likely to have more trouble rebounding from a layoff than those who have been through the job-hunting process several times before.

Confront your inner chicken about being nonconfrontational. Our inner chickens often are afraid of standing up to others. They feed us reasons why it's better to just live with the annoying behavior of those around us. They assure us that confrontations are unpleasant... and that voicing displeasure only makes bad situations worse.

The secret to overcoming an inner chicken's nonconfrontational nature is to learn how to stage successful confrontations. Five keys...
Consider the matter from the opposite side before speaking up. Does this person have a good reason for doing whatever is annoying you? Are you doing anything that annoys this person?
Wait until this person is alone before raising the subject. People tend to become embarrassed and defensive when confronted in a group.
Ask for "permission" to raise a difficult issue before voicing your complaint. "I have something difficult to say. Is it okay with you if I say it?"
Present your complaint as something that could be done differently, not as a matter of right and wrong. Assume that this person does not realize that he/she is causing offense. Avoid any hint of righteousness or blame. Remember that this is all your opinion and from your point of view.

Do one thing each day that scares you. Tell someone what you really think, even if it's not what he wants to hear. Schedule an appointment that you have been putting off. Try a new food. Ask for a discount at a store. Spend time with a teen who has been angry and distant.

It's best to face fears that bring you closer to your goals, but facing any fear at least teaches you that you can stand up to your inner chicken. Facing one fear each day eliminates the paralysis of trying to face all of your fears at once. After you become good at addressing small fears, you can work up to larger issues.
Helpful: Keep a list of fears and the actions you could take to confront them. That will make it harder for your inner chicken to convince you to take a day off from facing fears.

Call yourself names. When you hear excuses in your head, call yourself a chicken. Silly as it sounds, this self-teasing can balance out your inclination to listen to your chicken -- and drive you toward braver choices.

Bottom Line/Personal interviewed Beth Weissenberger, cofounder and COO of The Handel Group, a corporate, private and educational coaching company based in New York City. The Handel Group's corporate clients include Sony BMG and New York University School of Medicine. www.HandelGroup.com

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true aging view

George Carlin's Views on Aging

Do you realize that the only time in our lives when we like to get oldis when we're kids? If you're less than 10 years old, you're soexcited about aging that you think in fractions.

"How old are you?" "I'm four and a half!" You're never thirty-six anda half. You're four and a half, going on five!

That's the key.

You get into your teens, now they can't hold you back. You jump to thenext number, or even a few ahead.

"How old are you?" "I'm gonna be 16!" You could be 13, but hey, you'regonna be 16! And then the greatest day of your life...you become 21.Even the words sound like a ceremony...YOU BECOME 21. YESSSS!!!

But then you turn 30. Oooohh, what happened there? Makes you soundlike bad milk. He TURNED 30! We had to throw him out. There's no funnow, you're Just a sour-dumpling. What's wrong? What's changed?

You BECOME 21, you TURN 30, then you're PUSHING 40.

Whoa! Put on the brakes, it's all slipping away. Before you know it,you REACH 50...and your dreams are gone.

But wait!!! You MAKE it to 60. You didn't think you would!

So you BECOME 21, TURN 30, PUSH 40, REACH 50 and MAKE it to 60.

You've built up so much speed that you HIT 70! After that it's aday-by-day thing; you HIT Wednesday!

You get into your 80s and every day is a complete cycle; you HITlunch; you TURN 4:30; you REACH bedtime.

And it doesn't end there. Into the 90s, you start going backwards; "Iwas JUST 92."

Then a strange thing happens. If you make it over 100, you become alittle kid again. "I'm 100 and a half!"

May you all make it to a healthy 100 and a half!!

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Fwd: Time to reform bloated MP pensions

Positive change from positive people - pass it on make a difference please

Dear Supporter:

The Canadian Taxpayers Federation has sent letters to Opposition Leader Jack Layton and Prime Minister Stephen Harper urging them to reach across the aisle and reform bloated parliamentary pensions.

Can you think of a better way to set a new tone in Parliament?

The CTF has been in the headlines this week after releasing calculations showing 113 defeated and retired MPs from the 2011 General Election will collect a cumulative $112 million in estimated lifetime pension benefits. Former Bloc Leader Gilles Duceppe for example, will rake in $141,000 a year, fully indexed for life. That's nearly $3-million by the time he reaches age 80.

These kind of self-serving arrangements feed voter cynicism and apathy. They must end! And maybe – just maybe – after 4 elections in the last 7 years our elected officials are ready to shelve all the posturing and truly set a new tone for politics in our country.
 
Can you take a minute right now and do two things:

1. E-mail Prime Minister Stephen Harper (Harper.S@parl.gc.ca) and Opposition Leader Jack Layton (Layton.J@parl.gc.ca). Congratulate them on their historic success in the recent campaign and urge them to reform Parliamentary pensions to a self-funding arrangement whereby taxpayers match MP contributions dollar-for-dollar. Currently, taxpayers cough up $4 for every $1 contributed by an MP. You can cc your e-mail to us at updates@taxpayer.com;

2. Forward this e-mail to your contacts. Encourage them to JOIN the CTF at no cost, and sign our Reform MP Pension Petition. Our influence grows as our numbers grow. 

We have set up a Reform MP Pensions Campaign Page. Please check back for updates and responses to our letters to the leaders.

Thanks for all you do,

--Troy, Derek, Courtenay, Shannon and the rest of the team

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Interestong new pledge and insight

BY A 15 yr. OLD SCHOOL KID

 

New Pledge of Allegiance (TOTALLY AWESOME)! 

 

Since the Pledge of Allegiance 

And  

The Lord's Prayer 

Are not allowed in most 

Public schools anymore 

Because the word 'God' is mentioned..... 

A kid in Arizona    wrote the attached 

 

NEW School prayer: 

 

Now I sit me down in school 

Where praying is against the rule 

For this great nation under God 

Finds mention of Him very odd. 

 

If scripture now the class recites, 

It violates the Bill of Rights.  

And anytime my head I bow 

Becomes a Federal matter now.

 

Our hair can be purple, orange or green, 

That's no offense; it's a freedom scene.. 

The law is specific, the law is precise. 

Prayers spoken aloud are a serious vice. 

 

For praying in a public hall 

Might offend someone with no faith at all.. 

In silence alone we must meditate, 

God's name is prohibited by the state. 

 

We're allowed to cuss and dress like freaks, 

And pierce our noses, tongues and cheeks... 

They've outlawed guns, but FIRST the Bible. 

To quote the Good Book makes me liable.

We can elect a pregnant Senior Queen, 

And the 'unwed daddy,' our Senior King. 

It's 'inappropriate' to teach right from wrong, 

We're taught that such 'judgments' do not belong.. 

 

We can get our condoms and birth controls, 

Study witchcraft, vampires and totem poles ..  

But the Ten Commandments are not allowed,  

No word of God must reach this crowd. 

 

It's scary here I must confess, 

When chaos reigns the school's a mess. 

So, Lord, this silent plea I make: 

Should I be shot; My soul please take! 

Amen 

 

If you aren't ashamed to do this,  Please pass this on.. 

Jesus said,  'If you are ashamed of me,  I will be ashamed of you before my Father.' 

 

 

Not ashamed. Pass this on.  

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scammers are a real problem

Scammers Get Rich and Get Away
Chris Durst and Michael Haaren

Who says crime doesn't pay? The Internet has blessed us with many things, but it also cursed us with torrents of fraud. And scammers are prospering, while overwhelmed authorities function in a time of reduced staffs and tight budgets.

$10 MILLION PER MONTH IN ONE SIMPLE SCHEME

We've been investigating scams since 2004, give or take, and have seen con games steadily proliferate as more people come online. And it takes very little to make a killing.

In 2008, we joined ABC News' "20/20" in investigating a number of websites, and we won't soon forget what we saw. One scammer alone, for example, was victimizing thousands and pulling in millions of dollars a month. And he's still living high off the hog, while his victims have never received a penny in restitution.

STATE AND FEDERAL AUTHORITIES OVERWHELMED

When consumers fall prey to online scams, they are often reassured to know that someone will hear their complaint. They can report the fraud to the Federal Trade Commission or the FBI. Or they can notify their state's attorney general or office of consumer protection.

Unfortunately, however, only a tiny fraction of complaints are prosecuted. Why? Con games have grown exponentially and gone international, while enforcement budgets have stagnated or shrunk. (The FTC, for example, has always been a small agency. Its appropriation for 2010 was only $292 million. For perspective, one alleged scammer alone was recently reported to have generated $350 million in his various businesses, almost 20 percent more than the agency's entire budget.)

Don't get us wrong; we're not promoting a political agenda, and more money doesn't always equate to more effective bureaucracies. But we can say that Tombstone was a wilder place before the Earps arrived, and the Internet looks more like Tombstone every day.

THE BAD GUYS LAWYER UP

With enforcement thin and the environment rich in "targets," the bad guys can afford to hire aggressive lawyers. Scammers may be represented by the top law firms in the nation and can spend money freely to resist official action. This means that the good guys have to choose their fights even more carefully by sticking to the "slam dunk" cases and the smaller fry.

More money also means being able to afford better advice on how to skirt or evade the law. The texts on some sites, for example, have been screened by lawyers who specialize in advising dubious marketers. And con men generally can now set up shell companies offshore in a matter of hours, in countries where the laws make it almost impossible to identify the true owners.

It's definitely not your mom's or dad's marketplace, and you need to be cautious and do your homework before making purchases online. Always keep records and notes of your transactions. Therefore, if things do go south, you can call your credit card company immediately and seek a chargeback. That way, it won't be a tragedy if the posse has to show up a little later than you might have expected.

Christine Durst and Michael Haaren are leaders in the work-at-home movement and advocates of de-rat-raced living. Their latest book is "Work at Home Now," a guide to finding home-based jobs. They offer additional guidance on finding home-based work at www.RatRaceRebellion.com. To read features by other Creators Syndicate writers and cartoonists, visit the Creators Syndicate Web page at www.creators.com.

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Go Vote!

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Date: Sun, May 1, 2011 at 10:16 AM
Subject: Go Vote!
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Dear Supporter:
 
Tomorrow (Monday) is Election Day. As proud Canadian citizens and as concerned taxpayers, each of us has the opportunity to cast our vote.
 
The same day this election started, the CTF wrapped up its National Debt Clock Tour, which was designed to force politicians into taking action on our out-of-control finances. With your moral and financial support, we did just that, as each party has now vowed to eliminate the deficit; although unfortunately the NDP, Liberals and Greens promise to do it with tax hikes. The Conservatives promise to do it slower than we might like, but it's still quicker than originally scheduled in the Budget.
 
During the lead up to the election, we have been your campaign promise watchdog. You can check out a couple videos with our platform analysis here:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D2xCb9xlx9g
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QOyQwSUbo3o
 
But now it is up to you as a voter to decide which of those plans is most credible. We won't tell you who to vote for, but we do encourage you to vote.
 
If you need help in finding out where you can vote or any other information, please visit the website for Elections Canada here: http://www.elections.ca/content.aspx?section=vot&lang=e or call 1-800-463-6868.
 
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Fwd: Toxic people defense

interesting -do you know people  that could use this advice

GIVE IT TO TAKERS

The taker constantly asks you for favors but never seems to have the time or energy to pitch in when you need help. Whereas needy people make you feel as if they are sucking you dry, takers make you feel as if they are grabbing at you.

What to Say to a Jerk      Mark Goulston, MD

 

Communication is challenging enough with the "normal" people in your life -- the ones who want to cooperate and make life better for everyone. When you are forced to deal with jerks -- people who don't care about social give-and-take -- communication can seem next to impossible, leaving you drained and upset.
Jerks tend to trigger powerful negative emotional reactions that take a long time to recover from and that interfere with clear thinking.
As a psychiatrist, I refer to jerks as "toxic people."
If being around a toxic person is having a destructive effect on your physical or emotional health, you may need to get that person out of your life completely. But in many cases, you can "neutralize" the negative effect that a toxic person has on you. Here, simple ways to do it...
Recognize when a person is toxic. Everyone can be uncooperative and selfish some of the time -- and the techniques in this article can work during those times. But a toxic person is different from a person who is just having a bad day.
Toxic people have a distinctive view of life. They perceive the world as having cheated them out of something or as owing them something. Nothing good that happens to them changes that perception for long.
In contrast to healthy people, who feel entitled to what they deserve... and neurotics, who do not feel entitled to what they deserve... toxic people feel entitled to what they don't deserve. They do not play by the usual rules of getting along with others. They feel justified in taking, with no compulsion to give.
This belief system reveals itself in different ways for different types of toxic people. A toxic bully may aggressively push others around to get his/her way, whereas a toxically needy person may feel entitled to have his hand held constantly or insist that other people fight his battles. Bullies scream and demand. Toxically needy people whine and complain.
Adjust your expectations. We expect people to behave reasonably, and the shock that we feel when toxic people do not do so can be quite painful.
Toxic people sometimes may appear to be caring and cooperative. This behavior will last only until they get what they want. Don't be fooled into thinking that they have changed.
In addition, the strategies that usually work with nontoxic people -- such as empathizing or appealing to fairness -- do not work with toxic people.
Once you have identified a person as toxic, your smartest move is to protect yourself from being blindsided. Expect the person to act solely in his own interests even when he appears to be kind and caring.
Hold part of yourself back. Toxic people get what they want by pushing others off balance. They do so by acting in ways that trigger rage, fear, guilt and other strong emotions in others. Remind yourself not to get emotionally engaged. This is their issue, not yours.
Helpful: Pause before responding. No matter what the toxic person says or does, make a practice of waiting several seconds or more before you reply. Stay calm.
The longer you wait before responding, the more the toxic person may escalate his behavior. For example, he may get even angrier or whine even more. But the behavior is less likely to upset you, because you are keeping your emotional distance.

WHAT TO SAY TO A JERK

Three good responses to nearly every type of toxic person...
"Huh?" This one word can stop a jerk in his tracks. Use a mild, neutral tone of voice. Do this when the toxic person says something utterly ridiculous but acts as if he is being perfectly reasonable. This response conveys that what the toxic person is saying doesn't make sense. It works because it signals that you are not engaging with the content of what he said.
"Do you really believe what you just said?" Use a calm, straightforward tone, not a confrontational one. This question works because toxic people often resort to hyperbole to throw others off balance. They are prone to using the words "always" and "never" to drive home their points. However, don't expect the toxic person to admit that he is wrong. He is more likely to walk away in a huff -- which is fine because then you won't have to waste more energy dealing with him.
"I can see how this is good for you. Tell me how it's good for me." This response is a useful way to deal with a toxic person's demands. If he stalls or changes the subject, you can say, "Since it's not clear how this is good for me, I'm going to have to say no."
Here are other responses to specific types of toxic people...

BYE TO BULLIES

A bully gets what he wants by scaring other people. Even when he is behaving himself, his presence triggers fear because you never know when he will explode.
What to do...
Disengage: Most bullies use words and tone of voice as their weapons. Say silently to yourself, This person is not going to physically harm me. Picture his words as rubber bullets that, instead of hitting you between the eyes, zoom over your shoulder. Caution: If there is any possibility that the person may be physically violent, leave at once.
Respond: Take a deep breath, and say out loud, "Ah, geez, this is going to be a long conversation" or "You gotta be kidding" (said mockingly to show that the bully hasn't scared or offended you).
Whatever the bully's reaction -- whether he demands an explanation or continues to attack -- you can calmly say, "You're upset, I'm starting to shut down, and before we get to anything constructive, the sun is going to set, and then we're going to have to start all over again tomorrow because I don't see us reaching any conclusion."
If he keeps pushing and says, "I am not upset -- you're just not listening," you say, "Nah, forget it, it's gone, gone... the opportunity even to get into a conversation is gone, finito, flew the coop." The bully eventually will give up.
You can repeat this approach the next time. If the bully says, "Don't try that with me again," you just say, "Sorry, I find this exhausting, and I need to preserve my energy. If you can figure out a way to talk with me instead of at me, I'm willing. Until then, count me out." Then walk away -- which will be easy once you let go of the expectation that you will ever reach a win-win solution with this person.

NEUTRALIZE NEEDY PEOPLE

Unlike people who have a healthy need for others, toxically needy people expect constant help and attention and often use guilt to get it. No matter how much you do for them, it is never enough. They act like victims, suck you dry and leave you feeling depressed and incompetent because nothing ever gets better for them.
What to do...
Disengage: Imagine that the needy person has a hook that he is trying to snag you with, but the hook has missed you.
Respond: A needy person might say in a nails-on-a-chalkboard voice, "It's not fair." Pause and calmly but firmly say, "It is completely fair to everyone that it affects."

GIVE IT TO TAKERS

The taker constantly asks you for favors but never seems to have the time or energy to pitch in when you need help. Whereas needy people make you feel as if they are sucking you dry, takers make you feel as if they are grabbing at you.
What to do...
Disengage: Picture the taker as a child grabbing at you to get your attention. Imagine yourself calmly tapping him on the wrist and saying, "Now, now, wait your turn."
Respond: Make a mental list of ways the taker could help you. The next time he asks for a favor say, "Sure! And you can help me out by... " If he balks, say, "I assume you don't mind doing a favor for me in return, right?"
Insist on a quid pro quo each time, and the taker will soon move on to an easier target.

8 Signs of a Jerk

A toxic person...

1. Interrupts.
2. Doesn't take turns.
3. Takes advantage of people who are down.
4. Gloats in victory.
5. Is sullen in defeat.
6. Is not fair.
7. Lacks integrity.
8. Is the kind of person you'll avoid if you possibly can.

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Have a good day, be well and take care      Sieg
" a simple natural lifestyle and a chuckle a day keeps the doctor away'

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The art of courage

    Finding the Courage to Act     "Healing the scars of life challenges " 

 

Maybe life has been easy for you and maybe it hasn't, but I bet that at some point in the past weeks you have wondered how you, personally, would have fared if you had been living in Japan when the earthquake and tsunami hit... or in the high-nuclear radiation zone... or, for that matter, in any of a number of other parts of the world where people must use every resource they have just to keep their lives going. That includes a particular "resource" that isn't canned goods, bottled water or emergency medications, but rather the personal wherewithal to remain calm and focused... to put aside your fears in order to make important, even lifesaving decisions... and to be a supportive problem solver for the people who rely on you. In other words, I'm talking about courage of the deeply personal sort.

Courage is a critical resource that we all need -- and not just when faced with a natural disaster or during wartime. The news is full each day of many people braving life under the harshest of circumstances, so this seemed an excellent topic to discuss with Lauren Zander, life coach and regular Daily Health News contributor. Zander had a lot to say because, as she pointed out, courage is not only an essential tool for navigating life's inevitable crises, but one you can use for enrichment when life is going well. "I can't think of a more important ingredient for having a fulfilled life than courage," she said.

Being Brave in the Face of Fear

Zander told me that we first needed to clarify an important point: People often believe that being brave means that you are not afraid -- but the reality is quite the opposite. Bravery is acting in spite of fear -- not without it.

During times of disaster and true crisis, we all have no choice but to overcome fear and take action. Those living in Japan have no time for sitting around scared. They must focus on surviving and rebuilding. The need for courage doesn't arise only in times of crisis, however.  Zander points out that our daily lives often require inner fortitude as well. In our lifetimes, we face all manner of situations where we must confront fear and move past it.  Sometimes it's dramatic -- for instance, accepting your own homosexuality in the face of your family's disapproval... or knowing you should speak up when someone in your office says something racist or sexist to a coworker. You also need guts to confront someone you love about a destructive habit, such as smoking or abusing alcohol. You need courage to end a relationship that is no longer healthy or productive... and it certainly requires compassionate bravery to keep showing up day after day after day to support a loved one as he/she faces the end of life.

According to Zander, there is a common thread through all of these sorts of situations -- the courage we need will be directly connected to our "personal truth."

"Many people find that they can be 'courageous' in the name of telling their truth or when they want very badly to accomplish something important," she said. But when it comes to speaking up, people tend to fall short about saying what they really want to say because it either will hurt another person or change the dynamic between them. Being the real you is only done through expressing your deeper hidden thoughts and feelings versus running your life to keep everyone happy. In that moment of potential willingness to reveal your true voice, you will need a serious dose of courage. "I can get most people to admit they have lists and lists of things that they feel they cannot say to people in their lives, and then matching lists of why not -- and all of this is fear of being authentic. This kind of courage is very connected to one's heart."

Does This Make You Uncomfortable?

How's all this sitting with you? What thoughts are going through your mind?  Have you experienced situations that have called for personal bravery? Are you proud of how you have forged on and what you've accomplished?  Or are some of these questions feeling uncomfortable?

Most of us would benefit from some spine-stiffening introspection. Ask yourself what you fear -- and what fears you might not be openly acknowledging. Here are some to get you started...

When was the last time you tried something new and different, something you didn't already know how to do?  If it has been a long time, consider what might be holding you back. Challenge yourself to create a vision for a new and different future -- what might it look like and what you would like your vision to achieve or gain. Would you like to change careers? Overcome your fear of flying so that you can take an overseas vacation?

Does change -- no matter where or what kind -- scare you? Do you avoid potentially fun or enriching experiences so you don't have to risk the unknown?

Complete this sentence: "I need courage to __________." Perhaps that would be speaking up to your boss next time he/she speaks disrespectfully to you... going to a meeting of Weight Watchers or Overeaters Anonymous... pushing yourself to buy workout wear and go to a Zumba class... or even dating again after a painful divorce.   Whatever your need for courage might be, filling in the end of that sentence will give you a good idea of where in your life you may want to think about practicing courage now.

Next Steps...

Taking the "next step" is the basis for any courageous action.  Think about the classic Alcoholics Anonymous line, "One day at a time."  It's just that next step you have to take, because the ones that follow can be dealt with in their own time.  For instance, says Zander, "I never knew I could build a company based on my work as a life coach.  The thought alone scared me. I found that I was really able to figure out my dream if I let go of all my fears and just chased it. The same was true for being on TV -- I had no experience and was scared to death to want it, let alone do it. I got a coach, went to improv class and just kept moving ahead. This is the best part about learning courage -- it works!"

We all have courage -- but it's easy for fear to overwhelm our courageous actions. By focusing on the goal and advancing one step at a time, you can move on to ever greater levels in life, challenges you might once have thought impossible. "If you are on a road where you encounter scary challenges that require courage to keep you moving, you are likely living your best life," says Zander.

 

 

Small steps , small victories  make for big constructive leaps forward -give it a try  you will be pleasantly surprised . S Holle

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Fwd: Friendship and brotherhood -a religious plus

Now We Know Why Religious People Are Happier

It's long been known that people with religious faith tend to be more satisfied with their lives -- the question has been why. Now University of Wisconsin-Madison (UW) and Harvard University researchers believe they have come up with the answer, and the "secret ingredient" is... friendship.

"Our study offers compelling evidence that it is the social aspects of religion rather than theology or spirituality that lead to life satisfaction," wrote study author Chaeyoon Lim, PhD, an assistant professor of sociology at UW. I gave Dr. Lim a call to find out more.

Happiness Is Praying Together

To examine religion's impact on our sense of well-being, Dr. Lim and his colleagues analyzed data from the 2006 and 2007 Faith Matters Study. To collect this data, a commercial research company randomly phoned thousands of Americans twice in a one-year period and asked about their religious practices and life satisfaction and happiness. The survey included a representative sample of Americans, with most being of Christian faith, and smaller numbers of Jews and Muslims.

In a close examination of the results, Dr. Lim and his team found that...

• One-third of people (33%) who attended religious services once a week and had three to five friends in the congregation were extremely satisfied with their lives (meaning that they ranked their satisfaction as "10" on a scale of one to 10).

• In contrast, only 19% of those who attended weekly services but had no friends in the congregation reported extreme satisfaction.

• Nearly one-quarter of those who attended services sporadically (several times a year) but still had three to five friends in the congregation were extremely satisfied with their lives.

• Just 19% of people who never attended religious services -- and thus had no congregational friends -- were extremely satisfied with their lives.

• After factoring in church attendance and congregational friendship, the authors also discovered that private religious practices -- such as feeling God's presence in daily life and praying -- did not have a measurable impact on life satisfaction.

Dr. Lim told me that he found this last finding a bit surprising, since earlier research had suggested otherwise, but he said that this study demonstrates that the social dimension of religion -- specifically, the closeness of the community where you attend services -- is what's important. "For life satisfaction," he says, "praying together seems better than either praying alone or, say, bowling together."

Results were published in the December 2010 issue of American Sociological Review.

Why Friends Matter

This provides yet more evidence of how and why our social connections help our health, but what is it about deriving social support from shared spiritual pursuits that is so special? Dr. Lim gets this question all the time and doesn't know the answer yet... although he noted that we do know that people with more friends in general tend to be happier. He doesn't rule out the possibility that one could get the same benefits from a group of close friends who meet on a regular basis, engage in meaningful activities and have a shared sense of social identity.

Then again, it could be that there is something unique about friendship based on religious faith -- what Dr. Lim calls "morally infused" social support -- that cannot be found in the secular community. He and his colleagues are currently gathering more data to address this question.

Source(s):

Chaeyoon Lim, PhD, assistant professor of sociology, University of Wisconsin-Madison, Wisconsin.

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How to stop your space intrusions-smile

How to Get Rid of Telemarketers

- If they start out with, "How are you today?" say, "I'm so glad youasked, because no one these days seems to care, and I have all theseproblems; my arthritis is acting up, my eyelashes are sore, my dogjust died. When they try to get to the sell, just keep talking aboutyour problems.

- If they say they're John Doe from XYZ Company, ask them to spelltheir name. Then ask them to spell the company name. Then ask themwhere it is located. Continue asking them personal questions orquestions about their company for as long as necessary.

- This works great if you are male: Telemarketing: "Hi, my name isJudy and I'm with XYZ Company...Wait for a second and with a realhusky voice ask, "What are you wearing?"

- Cry out in surprise, "Judy! Is that you? Oh my God! Judy, how haveyou been?" Hopefully, this will give Judy a few brief moments ofterror as she tries to figure out where she could know you from.

- Say "No," over and over. Be sure to vary the sound of each one, andkeep a rhythmic tempo, even as they are trying to peak. This is mostfun if you can do it until they hang up.

- If MCI calls trying to get you to sign up for the Family and FriendsPlan, reply, in as SINISTER a voice as you can, "I don't have anyfriends...Would you be my friend?"

 

 More How to Get Rid of Telemarketers

- If the company cleans rugs, respond: "Can you get out blood? Can youget out GOAT blood? How about HUMAN blood?"

- After the telemarketer gives their spiel, ask him/her to marry you.When they get all flustered, tell them that you could not just giveyou credit card number to a complete stranger.

- Tell the telemarketer that you work for the same company, they oftencan't sell to employees.

- Answer the phone. As soon as you realize it is a telemarketer, setthe receiver down, shout or scream "Oh my Gosh!!!" and then hang up.

- Tell the telemarketer you are busy at the moment and ask them ifthey will give you their HOME phone number so you can call them back.When the telemarketer explains that they cannot give out their HOMEnumber, you say "I guess you don't want anyone bothering you at home,right?" The telemarketer will agree and you say, "Now you know how Ifeel!" Hang up.

- Tell them it is dinner time, BUT ask if they would please hold. Putthem on your speaker phone while you continue to eat at your leisure.Smack your food loudly and continue with your dinner conversation.

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loyalty -food for thought

Casey had that unique ability. He was so good at it that during his12-year stint, he won seven World Series and 10 American Leaguepennants. This is head and shoulders above what any other major leaguemanager was able to do with their team.

So, what was Casey's reward for this incredible record? He got fired.The circumstances are a little unusual, to say the least. When BillMazarowski of the Pittsburgh Pirates hit a dramaticbottom-of-the-ninth home run in the seventh and deciding game, the NewYork Yankees lost the 1960 World Series. Stengel was dumped just fivedays later and said, "I've been fired because of my age. I'll nevermake the mistake of being 70 again."

The New York Yankees' owner had a right to do what he did. However,it's like the bull standing on the railroad track. You admire hiscourage, but you question his judgment. You can admire the Yankeemanagement for doing what they thought was right, but you mustquestion their judgment for firing such an incredibly successfulmanager.

And what about fairness? Doesn't success deserve some kind of loyalty?Casey's fans were terribly upset about that turn of events, and itcauses all of us to wonder what we have to do in order to develop asense of loyalty on both sides of the table. Loyalty is a veryvaluable character quality, and those who have it really do havesomething to smile about!

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useful video on communication

http://video.ca.msn.com/watch/video/why-men-don-t-listen-to-women/17yxtwmdg

 

Men are not girlfriends and respond differently to challenges -linear not emotive -the key diffference

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Fwd: Leaders' debate: send in your questions

Subject: Leaders' debate: send in your questions

Provide your thoughts and input =be heard _  make a difference

Dear Supporter:
 
CTV, Global TV, and CBC are hosting the federal leaders' debate scheduled for Tuesday, April 12th and are inviting questions from the public. It's important they hear from taxpayers. Can you take a minute right now and send in a question or two? Here are some suggested topics:
 
1. Taxpayers pay $84.4-million a day on federal debt interest. Do you think this is a good use of tax dollars, and if not, why is there not more urgency around balancing the budget and paying down debt?

2. Will you commit to no tax increases during your term as prime minister?

3. Will you commit to not increasing your MP compensation in the next term or at least until the budget is balanced?

4. Will you commit to making the auditor general's audit public on how Parliament spends half-a-billion tax dollars when it comes out later this year?

5. The federal government hands out billions in direct subsidies and loans to business in Canada. Instead of high business taxes, why not lower them for everybody and end subsides for select businesses and industries?

6. Employment in the civil service has grown by 3,700 bureaucrats since 2005, a 13% increase. Do you think this is responsible or sustainable given the deficit?

7. What plan do you have to address the costs associated with an aging population whereby fewer taxpayers support higher costs associated with social security and health care?

8. The tax-funded compensation of all elected officials in Canada is subject to public disclosure except elected officials on native reserves. Will you support a law requiring the compensation of reserve politicians be posted online?

9. MP Pensions are wildly out-of-line with public expectations. For every $1 contributed by an MP, taxpayers contribute $4. Is that reasonable? Don't you think it's time to reform pensions to a dollar-for-dollar arrangement as many provincial legislatures have done?

10. Senator Raymond Lavigne recently quit his job in order to hold onto his pension after being convicted of fraud and breach of trust. If elected, would you put in place the necessary reforms so that convicted fraudsters such as Lavigne would not get access to the taxpayer-funded portion of their pension?
 
Questions posed in your own words will have a better chance of being considered. Submission deadline is this Thursday, April 7th. Please e-mail questions to question@electiondebtate2011.ca, and be sure to include your name, address, and daytime telephone number.
 
Thanks for all you do,
 
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Useful information -when and why to drink water

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Subject: WHEN to Drink WATER.........................

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Correct Time to Drink Water....Very Important...
This is interesting!!  I knew you need your minimum water to

Flush the toxins out of your body, but this was news to me.

Correct Time to Drink Water....Very Important
From A Cardiac Specialist!

Drinking water at certain time maximizes it's effectiveness on the body:

2 glasses of water after waking up - helps activate internal organs

1 glass of water 30 minutes before a meal - helps digestion

1 glass of water before taking a bath - helps lower blood pressure

1 glass of water before going to bed - avoids stroke or heart attack

Please pass this to the people you care about.......I DID!!!!

 

 

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Your body is telling you what it needs through cravings

Craving a Burger? Or Chocolate?       Fred Pescatore, MD

It can strike when you least expect it -- an overwhelming desire to satisfy a food craving. You may be desperate for a burger, cake, chocolate, pizza or some other specific food.
Even though food cravings seem harmless enough, they are often a red flag that a person's diet needs attention. Strong food cravings generally don't occur unless the body is crying out for particular nutrients -- ones that can almost always be found in more healthful foods than what we may initially desire.

Five common cravings -- and what each may mean... *

Burgers and steaks. A craving for red meat is often a sign that you're lacking iron and/or conjugated linoleic acid (CLA), a fatty acid that helps your body burn stored fat. 

Healthful alternative: To satisfy your body's need for iron, try dark leafy greens, such as spinach or Swiss chard. These vegetables may be a more healthful option if your diet is high in fat and carbohydrates.

An occasional steak (once a week) is OK, but try incorporating small amounts of red meat into your regular diet so you don't go overboard when you indulge this craving.

Consider adding small amounts of lean beef into a vegetable soup or a sprinkle of lean ground beef into a bean chili. Lacto-vegetarians can get CLA in butter and low-fat milk.

Baked goods. If you're desperate for a rich, gooey brownie, a piece of cake or a glazed donut, your blood sugar (glucose) levels are probably fluctuating, often in response to surges of the stress hormone cortisol. Too much cortisol triggers the release of glucose, thereby causing the blood sugar-regulating hormone insulin to spike then drop precipitously.

Because baked goods are essentially sugar and carbohydrate, they provide a quick boost in energy and serotonin (a brain chemical that invokes feelings of happiness) when blood sugar levels are waning.

Healthful alternative: Try a piece of fruit or a glass of antioxidant-rich pomegranate juice. These natural sources of sugar provide nutrients that baked goods can't, such as vitamin C. To curb your craving for carbohydrates, consider trying the dietary supplement chromium picolinate (200 mcg, three times daily).

Caution: Check with you doctor if you have diabetes. Chromium picolinate may alter drug requirements.

Physical activity, such as walking, also will allow your body to use up some of the excess cortisol. Exercise activates the body's relaxation response to maintain healthy cortisol levels.

Chocolate. People who crave chocolate may be deficient in phenylalanine, an essential amino acid found in chocolate that the body converts into another amino acid, tyrosine. Tyrosine plays a key role in the production of the brain chemicals dopamine and serotonin, which enhance mood and reduce pain. You may also crave chocolate when you need an energy boost.

Healthful strategy: Eat dark chocolate or cocoa powder with at least 75% cacao. Limit amounts of lighter chocolates, which contain more sugar and less cacao. Avoid all chocolate if you have phenylketonuria, a condition in which the body cannot process the phenylalanine found in chocolate.

Another option: Mix unsweetened cocoa powder with skim milk to taste (or follow the instructions on the cocoa powder container). Add the all-natural sugar substitute stevia and/or top with a small amount of whipped cream.

French fries. A craving for fries usually means your body is lacking sodium and/or serotonin or experiencing a blood sugar imbalance caused by high levels of cortisol.

Simple carbohydrates in potatoes break down into glucose, boosting your energy and serotonin levels. The salt used on fries satisfies your need for sodium, and the oil used for frying helps keep you satiated.

Healthful alternative: Eating about 20 salted nuts (two ounces) -- such as almonds, pecans or walnuts -- each day provides healthful omega-3s and sodium. (People with high blood pressure should eat unsalted nuts.) Nuts also provide a sustained glucose boost that helps stabilize blood sugar. A diet rich in proteins, vegetables, fruits and whole grains will naturally keep cravings for greasy, high-fat foods at bay.

Pizza. A craving for pizza usually means that you may be low in calcium (which is found in the cheese) and/or lacking in essential fatty acids (which are found in the cheese and olive oil).

Healthful alternative: Make your own pizza with a whole-grain crust, organic low-fat cheese, fresh tomatoes and veggies. Try adding to your diet more foods that are rich in essential fatty acids, including walnuts, avocado, flaxseed and fatty fish, such as salmon.

*If you continue to crave a certain food, consider getting tested for deficiencies in vitamins A, B-12, D and folic acid (these tests have been clinically proven, whereas the accuracy of other nutritional deficiency tests is questionable).

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Catholics are more tolerant -interesting study

Report: Catholics support gay rights

              WASHINGTON (UPI) -- A majority of U.S. Catholics support legal rightsfor gays and lesbians, a report released Wednesday indicated.

The Public Religion Research Institute said Catholics are more likelythan Protestants to criticize the way their church deals withhomosexuals. Less than 40 percent gave the Catholic Church either an Aor B on the issue, while majorities of Protestants support theirchurches.

"It may come as a surprise to many that rank and file Catholics aremore supportive of rights for gays and lesbians than other Christiansand the public," said Robert P. Jones, the institute's CEO. "But thebest data available paints this consistent portrait across a range ofissues, including same-sex marriage, workplace non-discrimination,open military service, and adoption rights for gay and lesbiancouples."

One-third of Catholics, 33 percent, say the church's messagecontributes a lot to high suicide rates among young homosexuals, while37 percent say it has a small effect.

Almost half, 43 percent, of Catholics asked support gay marriage, and31 percent support civil unions. Only 22 percent are opposed to legalrecognition for gay relationships.

A majority, 56 percent, say homosexual sexual relationships are notsinful.

Almost three-quarters, 73 percent, support protections againstworkplace discrimination, 63 percent say gays should be able to serveopenly in the military and 60 percent that gay couples should be ableto adopt children.

The data came from surveys the institute conducted in 2010.


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save on your gas with these tips

IT DOES SEEM TO MAKE SENSE

 
  TIPS ON PUMPING GAS

  I don't know what you guys are paying for gasoline.... but here
in California we are paying up to $3.75 to $4.10 per gallon. My line of
work is in petroleum for about 31 years now, so here are some tricks to
get more of your money's worth for every gallon:

 

  Here at the Kinder Morgan Pipeline where I work in San Jose , CA
we deliver about 4 million gallons in a 24-hour period thru the
pipeline.. One day is diesel the next day is jet fuel, and gasoline,
regular and premium grades. We have 34-storage tanks here with a total
capacity of 16,800,000 gallons.

 

  Only buy or fill up your car or truck in the early morning when
the ground temperature is still cold. Remember that all service stations
have their storage tanks buried below ground. The colder the ground the
more dense the gasoline, when it gets warmer gasoline expands, so buying
in the afternoon or in the evening....your gallon is not exactly a
gallon. In the petroleum business, the specific gravity and the
temperature of the gasoline, diesel and jet fuel, ethanol and other
petroleum products plays an important role.

 

  A 1-degree rise in temperature is a big deal for this business.
But the service stations do not have temperature compensation at the
pumps.

 

  When you're filling up do not squeeze the trigger of the nozzle
to a fast mode If you look you will see that the trigger has three (3)
stages: low, middle, and high. You should be pumping on low mode,
thereby minimizing the vapors that are created while you are pumping.
All hoses at the pump have a vapor return. If you are pumping on the
fast rate, some of the liquid that goes to your tank becomes vapor.
Those vapors are being sucked up and back into the underground storage
tank so you're getting less worth for your money.

 

  One of the most important tips is to fill up when your gas tank
is HALF FULL. The reason for this is the more gas you have in your tank
the less air occupying its empty space. Gasoline evaporates faster than
you can imagine. Gasoline storage tanks have an internal floating roof.
This roof serves as zero clearance between the gas and the atmosphere,
so it minimizes the evaporation. Unlike service stations, here where I
work, every truck that we load is temperature compensated so that every
gallon is actually the exact amount.

 

  Another reminder, if there is a gasoline truck pumping into the
storage tanks when you stop to buy gas, DO NOT fill up; most likely the
gasoline is being stirred up as the gas is being delivered, and you
might pick up some of the dirt that normally settles on the bottom.

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Re: FW: A LITTLE GASOLINE HUMOR IF THERE IS ANY

On Mon, Mar 21, 2011 at 9:56 AM, Belinda K <bjkruis@gmail.com> wrote:

 

 

A little humour to ease the frustration (if possible!!)

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From: Kruis, Zoe <zoe.kruis@bmo.com>
Date: Mon, Mar 21, 2011 at 10:24 AM
Subject: FW: A LITTLE GASOLINE HUMOR IF THERE IS ANY
To:

Enjoy!!!

 

 Gas Ouch - get a bike is an option  

 

A LITTLE GASOLINE HUMOR IF THERE IS ANY A LITTLE GASOLINE HUMOR.......

 

 

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